This was the first piece of furniture I ever owned when I moved out on my own. It cost me $7, and was nearly impossible to get into my room. It was a running joke that I would have to just sell it with my room because I might not be able to get it… Continue reading Creating Space
I am thankful that I learned to advocate for myself and to know my boundaries. Thankful that I’m learning how to take care of my body and how to listen to it. Thankful that it taught me to have grace with myself and others.
It is okay to let go of the things you once thought you would want in order to embrace what you have in front of you. Its okay if the things you like now aren’t the things you thought you might or if the community surrounding you isn’t what you envisioned your head. We must celebrate all of the things that have brought us this far and reconcile who we thought we would become with the reality of who we are.
During 2020 my goal was to read at least 30 books and I ended up finishing with 31! I wanted to share a list of them with you al! Reading used to be something I never enjoyed and something that wasn’t a priority but over the last year I have learned to love it. I would… Continue reading 2020 Reading List
One in particular is that a flower cannot grow in poor soil or if there are weeds competing for its space and in the same way I cannot thrive and be who I am mean to be if I am filling myself with distractions , letting lies take root and surrounding myself with people who don’t encourage me or see my potential. When the noise dims and all of the distractions cease to exist, is when we often can begin to hear our own heartbeat an all the things it has been longing to say.
The other day I was working on my resume, and I found myself getting discouraged. All that I could see is all my shortcomings and lack of experience. The job I was applying for was one I was interested in but knew going into it I probably didn’t have the qualifications. I felt inadequate-thinking that at 26 I really haven’t done that much. I know deep down that those things aren’t true, but sometimes the lies can seem big and scary in the moment. That was when Ricky took my hand and looked me in the eye and said “ Babe, stop selling yourself short. The things you have done in your life are important and incredible. You are capable of doing anything that you set your mind too.” In that moment I was so incredibly thankful to have somebody to reflect back to me the truth when I could only see the lies. All it took was those few words for me to pause and reflect on the things I’ve done with a different perspective. A new perspective that left me feeling empowered and encouraged. So here is my reminder to you; stop selling yourself short. Don't discount your growth, celebrate it. Every victory in your life is beautiful and it has led you to where you are. Sometimes it is easy to let comparison convince you that the beauty in your life is small and insignificant. Yet beauty isn’t something that is mean to be compared- it is something that is mean to be celebrated. Don’t discount your growth. Some days it can be easy to look in the mirror and to only see your failures and inadequacies. But you must remember that growth has happened and your reflection carries so much more. It carries the beauty of a heart that didn’t give up. It shows a love that cannot be labeled with the small and petty words of others. It shows scars that are proof you showed up and that you are a survivor. It shows a journey that is full of mountain tops and low valleys, and let me tell you beauty grows abundantly in both seasons. I know for me personally it can be easy to let comparison convince me that I have not done enough or grown enough. Comparison tells me that my story isn’t worth anything because others out their have stories that are more exciting and full of purpose. Yet why is it that we feel this need to compare our journeys? Why is it that we are eager to celebrate the growth and beauty in others but cannot see the same in ourselves? It is time to change this, to become people who not only empower others but empower ourselves. To recognize that your story is bold and beautiful and full of love because it is yours and not somebody else's. It is time to stop selling ourselves short.
It is important to remember that everyone that you encounter is human, that your problems are not always bigger or more important than theirs. We have the power and the opportunity every day to show others that love and kindness exist.
My story hasn’t always been an easy one and my childhood was not conventional in most ways, but at the end of the day that doesn’t matter. What matters is what we do with what we have been given. And for me that is a commitment to be the best version of me, the one that I know this world needs. No more holding back.
began to change my mindset, allowing myself the freedom to try things and to explore my interests. And slowly but surely I found myself doing things that I never would have thought I would enjoy or be able to follow through with. All of this to say, that the boxes we put ourselves in often times are only inhibiting us from truly living and thriving. A flower put beneath a box will soon wilt from lack of sunshine and oxygen and in the same way we can thrive if we are constantly forcing ourselves to stay the same.
In this time, I have felt that even more deeply. These days feel dreary for a lot of people; waves of uncertainty and anxiety roll in thick like the morning fog. And someday it is hard to muster up the strength to look for the sunshine or to even want to let hope take root.
Yet the beautiful thing is that we aren’t alone in this time, we still have the power to connect and reach out to others. We are not alone, for love always shows up. We can come together and be hope for those who are desperate for any sign of spring. We can still find ways to be love to others even from afar. And that is why I decided to make it my goal to write 100 letters in the month of April- because love always finds a way to show up for others. This month for me that looks like writing handwritten notes and providing some extra encouragement to those who I love or even those who I don’t know.